I’ve never been a fan of standard positive affirmations; my clients are always shocked when I tell them this. In fact, for some people, not only do affirmations not work, but they can also make things worse. I know this may be a little surprising after reading pretty much everywhere that if we just repeat positive things, our lives will turn to glitter and gold.
Affirmations are not bad, but we are all different, and affirmations work best when they are made specifically for each of us based on our needs.
Why Most Affirmations Backfire
For example, let’s take the affirmation, “I am in perfect health.” While this is obviously a very positive statement, it is typical, if you are not feeling this way, to have an automatic internal response of, “Yeah, but I’m sick!” This may be conscious or subconscious response. In this case, along with that affirmation, you would actually be repeating (even if just at a subconscious level) the negative statement of, “I’m sick!” as many times a day as you repeat your affirmation. Yikes, right? It’s most likely too far a reach from where you currently are, or you probably wouldn’t even be trying to use an affirmation like this in the first place, right?
How You Can Create Affirmations That Work
All hope is not lost, though. Affirmations will be very effective when they hold some type of truth or resonance for you. In order to make affirmations successful, we need a way to baby-step our way to believing what we are saying. We need to make sure we don’t have those, “Yeah, buts…” that might end up sabotaging our efforts.
I’m going to each you exactly how to find affirmations that will work. Remember, if you repeat an affirmation such as, “I am perfect, happy, and healthy,” but you are not feeling that way, it’s likely to backfire. However, you can make it work for you by revising that affirmation to something like, “I am excited to feel perfect, happy, and healthy.” This statement is positive and could still feel true for you. There is no risk of accidental negative affirmations getting attached.
Examples of Effective Affirmations
Affirmations like these are not likely to cause an unintended opposite reaction, because they are subtle. As you feel better about yourself, and your health, you can continue to revise them so they are more and more positive, as long as they still resonate with you.
Quick Tips For Creating Effective Affirmations
When and How To Use Affirmations
Now that you understand the components of a really effective affirmation, you can revise affirmations that you already use to be more specific to you. Or, even better, have fun creating your very own that you love!
|Amy B. Scher
Amy B. Scher is a leading voice in the field of mind-body-spirit healing. As an energy therapist, Amy uses energy therapy techniques to help those experiencing illness and those in need of emotional healing. She has been featured on… Read more
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